Dr. Tania Alaby-Varma

I am Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels 1 and 2 trained, which is the most comprehensive, evidence-based and effective therapy available for relationship improvement today. Based on over five decades of research in relationship psychology, the Gottman Method utilizes structured and solution-focused interventions. My treatment approach to couples therapy represents an integration of interventions and techniques from the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Relational-Cultural Psychotherapy, Bowen’s Family Systems Theory, and Attachment Theory, as well as evidence-based approaches, including Trauma-Informed Care, and Internal Family Systems amongst others. I welcome all types of couples and respect how partners define their unique relationships. Couples counseling can be beneficial for a wide continuum of concerns/difficulties, ranging from couples/partners who want to simply improve and optimize their relationships to those who are in a serious crisis and feel close to the breaking point. Couples often seek my help when they encounter roadblocks or lack intimacy— At times, they may be repeating the same destructive patterns, engaging in the same arguments and processes, experiencing a rupture of trust or infidelity, lacking of understanding or compassion, engaging in disagreements about priorities, having disparate needs for emotional closeness, experiencing feelings of neglect or overwhelm, or sensing a general relationship malaise. Other common difficulties include sexual intimacy, becoming parents or parenting dilemmas, an emotional or sexual affair, negotiating life’s trials ranging from finances to in-law relationships, and conscious uncoupling in separation or divorce. By working with me, couples gain insights into their relational dynamics, core relational themes which we are rooted in both their shared journey as well as their families of origin. I recommend effective strategies to improve relational dynamics, leading the couple to experience new ways of being and relating to one another both inside and outside of the therapeutic room. I am a passionate and skilled licensed clinical psychologist who provides personalized, knowledgeable, and compassionate mental health services. I weave together my strong clinical experience and my authentic presence with my client’s desire to make a change, enabling lasting growth and healing to occur. I am an experienced clinician with a strong educational and training background. I have practiced in various settings, treating a broad spectrum of symptoms, concerns, and presentations. My experience and knowledge are well integrated with connection, relationships, and my genuine caring presence.