Jason Fierstein

In order to explain what I do, I’d like to tell you about a struggle I once had. For years, I felt uncomfortable in my own skin and uncomfortable around women. I was stressed, ate poorly, and generally didn’t take care of myself. I wasn’t a great communicator, and typically concealed a lot of what I wanted and needed without showing those things to others. I was too scared too. When those needs asserted themselves in problematic ways, they created distress in my relationships. Because I didn’t know how to express my needs effectively, I ended up frustrating others and creating depression for myself. Women didn’t want to hang out with me, because they sensed that I didn’t really want to hang out with myself. Life was not so good. I began to change these things by working with a counselor who helped me learn to express myself clearly and get my relationship needs met. I learned how to communicate more effectively and assertively and stopped creating the relationship problems that used to hinder my success. And you know what happened? My life transformed. I made major changes in my thinking and my behavior and, as a result, my relationships with others turned around. I began to like myself a lot more. I felt much more comfortable in my own skin, and more at ease with myself. I stopped creating many of the problems that I accused others of creating and doing to me. I started to get happy. My friends and family noticed — and my relationships were better than ever. People liked the new me — and I liked the new me! At this point, I realized that I needed to help other men to do the same thing that I did for myself. I really wanted to work with men who were struggling in their relationships, and in their lives. I wanted to help men rediscover their voice where they may have lost it, or never known that they possessed it. I wanted to show men that they don’t need to suffer in silence, and that they are capable of having more happy and successful lives than they may have thought possible. Through better communication, tearing down their “emotional walls”, and learning to meet their own needs in a healthy way, I aim to create healthier and emotionally stronger men who stop incessantly thinking about their problems, and start dealing with the problems head-on. I want to give men the right tools to use in their lives so they can say to themselves: “life is good.”