Lee Scher

What does help look like: 1. Helping you sort through the feelings that come up in relationship- when are feelings or the intensity of feelings more about past experiences, and what part of your feelings are telling you something about the present. 2. Helping you sort out when it's a good idea to talk with your partner and when you need a break because you may be in a traumatic state (fight, flight, freeze, fawn). In these survival states, it's very difficult to think, feel, or connect with another person. 3. Supporting you in setting boundaries, saying no, and asking for what you want in relationship. These things can feel overwhelming or unsafe for people with relational trauma. 4. Helping you sort through and process past experiences, seeing them from your present adult point of view but also allowing yourself to remember what it felt like when you were young. Sorting through past traumatic experiences while staying regulated and still able to manage your life can be a difficult balance but it is possible. 5. Once you've processed grief and hurt from the past, you'll find yourself with more capacity to be open to your present, and create the life you want.