Men's Issues Therapists in New York

I'm a New York based therapist who helps overwhelmed, high-performing individuals navigate burnout, life transitions, stress, and the pressure to "hold it all together," I take a warm, real, conversational approach that helps clients feel understood, grounded, and actually supported.

I’m Dr. Michael Tom — Harvard- and Columbia-trained, board-certified in both Psychiatry and Community & Public Psychiatry. I’ve worked with clients who seem to have it all together on the outside but feel stressed, anxious, or disconnected on the inside. I’ve been there, and I know how exhausting it can feel to keep pushing forward without relief. My approach is grounded in experience and compassion. I provide a supportive space to help you make sense of the stress, understand your patterns, and develop strategies that truly work for your life. I am also a contributing author to the American Psychiatric Association's practice guidelines, so I bring a broad perspective and up-to-date knowledge to every session. Your goals: sleep that restores, focus that lasts, stronger relationships, and a career that's part of, but not all, of a meaningful life. I offer confidential therapy with or without medication management. We work on a plan that fits your schedule and the life you want, so you can get back to feeling like yourself.

I work with high-functioning professionals across New York who look steady from the outside and are running on empty underneath. Attorneys, founders, finance and tech professionals, healthcare workers, and the people everyone else leans on. If you are managing anxiety by overworking, or you have hit burnout and cannot slow down without feeling like you are failing, that is the work. I specialize in anxiety therapy, burnout recovery, self-esteem, and men's mental health. All sessions are virtual, so you can meet from your office, your apartment, or between calls. Sessions are direct and structured. You will not spend fifty minutes narrating your week to silence. We identify the pattern driving the problem, whether that is avoidance, perfectionism, or the internal critic that never lets up, and then we build skills you can actually use on a Tuesday afternoon. I draw on ACT, CBT, and DBT, along with Stoic-informed frameworks that tend to land well with people who think analytically. Expect me to challenge you and to be straightforward about what I am seeing. Expect homework. Expect to leave most sessions with something concrete to try.

I work with people navigating developmental trauma, addiction, depression, and the complicated work of couples relationships. My own path through these same struggles — trauma, addiction, and long-term depression — sparked a nearly twenty-year exploration into meditation and somatic psychotherapy, and shaped how I show up with clients now. I hold a master's in Mindfulness-Based Transpersonal Counseling from Naropa University and I'm a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Certified Addiction Specialist. I've worked in community mental health and private practice since 2014, with individuals and couples alike. What I care about most is helping people find real, felt change — not just insight, but a shift in the body and nervous system that actually sticks. Outside of sessions, you'll probably find me at the record store, on a trail, or dancing badly in my living room with my wife and daughter. I'd be glad to work with you.

Are you or a loved one feeling stuck – uncertain about navigating changes in your life, how you see yourself, or how to reconnect with those close to you? When we feel stuck, taking steps forward can feel like a monumental task. We can work together to break down your thoughts and uncertainties, determine the best way forward, and put practical strategies into action, to empower you to create the life you want for yourself. In me, you’ll have a collaborator who will follow your lead and ensure you feel you heard but will be willing to challenge you and continue to motivate you towards achieving your goals. Therapy with me involves weaving together practical skill-building and evidence-based strategies to help you achieve your individualized goals. I work with individuals experiencing difficult life transitions at work, at home, or at school. Through individual, parent, or family sessions, we will untangle your thoughts, improve your self-esteem, and take tangible steps towards sustainable change. Neurodiversity (Autism & ADHD) affirming and LGBTQ+ friendly, I always take a person-centric approach. When you have a better understanding of who you are and what you want, your goals will feel attainable. Everyone has the ability to move past the struggles they’re experiencing, and together we can create solutions and develop skills to build long-term happiness. If you’re ready to learn how we can work together, email or call me for a 15-minute consultation.

Reclaim joy and intimacy in the hustle of NYC. Are you grappling with prolonged life imbalance, leading to increased anger, resentment, and isolation? As a dynamic individual or power couple navigating high-powered careers, you might find yourself dismissing needs and neglecting relationships. The toll on your physical, emotional, mental, and sexual well-being can be overwhelming. It's time to break free from the city grind, foster deeper connections, and embrace transformative intimacy. If you're seeking a solution tailored to your fast-paced New York life, sex-positive and kink-affirming therapy with me could be the key. Embark on a therapeutic adventure crafted for individuals and couples performing in high-pressure or demanding NYC environments. Our journey together involves uncovering your true sexual selves, nurturing sexual self-esteem, and mastering self-regulation. In our sessions, we'll fortify sexual exploration and expression through enhanced self-advocacy, increased body awareness, and refined conflict resolution skills. Together, we'll address the complexities of physical intimacy (desire, arousal, orgasm, erectile challenges, and painful intercourse) and navigate emotional intimacy challenges such as conflict management, trust, and fidelity. Specializing in consensual non-monogamy, our sessions could include exploring polyamory, ENM, swinging, sugar dating, and kink/BDSM—all within the context of your unique desires and curiosity. With my integrative approach to treatment, I offer a personalized and practical path to healing. Together, we'll delve into major themes such as creativity, love, meaning, freedom, and self-actualization. Grounded in the potential for change and self-directed growth, our sessions will identify physiological experiences to better understand psychological impacts on sexual functioning. Engage in fully virtual therapy sessions from the comfort and privacy of your personal space anywhere in New York State! Experience premium therapy, flexible sessions, and heightened confidentiality with my private pay services. Refuse dissatisfaction amidst your vibrant and active New York lives. Allow our work together to rebalance mental health and sexual wellness, simultaneously enhancing your professional successes and personal intimacy. Email today for a joyful, pleasurable, and purposeful life more in alignment with the authentic you.

I've worked in various roles throughout my life. I started as a performing artist. I grew and learned a lot from that experience -- as I have from all of my roles -- but wanted to explore other interests. That included corporate management and leadership roles for 18+ years and going to graduate school. Ultimately I've landed on my feet in a field that truly fits my skills, my passion and what feels like a calling. I believe my varied background gives me an edge in understanding a lot of different life paths. I offer that to my patients.

Jhanelle is a licensed mental health counselor in the state of New York. Jhanelle completed her master’s degree in mental health counseling at Adelphi University and her bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Africana Studies at the University of Pittsburgh. She has four years of experience working with an intensive community treatment team to support individuals with severe mental illness and four years of experience at a center for early childhood development and learning. In her early career, she assisted in a research project studying racial identity and the impacts of racial discrimination on physical and mental health. Her training and experience have helped to inform an approach that is forward-looking and supportive. She enjoys helping clients build confidence, shift their internal narratives, and make changes in their choices and lifestyles. She is known for her uplifting attitude, encouraging words, and unconditional positive regard.

Especially for some of the most successful among us, we can hold ourselves to the highest standards of performance in all areas. Sometimes we may feel that we're supposed to have all the answers to the challenges life throws our way, even when that isn’t always possible. For so many, an achievement focus can come at the expense of other areas of our lives. I see therapy as a collaborative experience. I work with my clients to help unlock what holds them back to gain an understanding of how our histories shape our present, while building a foundation of skills in the here-in-now to promote healing and a future that is self-defined. My approach is solution-focused and uses elements of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Psychodynamic Therapy to identify and build on your strengths. As a Substance Abuse Specialist, I help individuals including young adults transform their relationships with substances and behaviors that feel out of control. Therapy should be a process that makes us feel free to be fully ourselves. To heal and enliven us to be authentically, beautifully, and powerfully exactly who we are, unbound by what has in the past, held us back. Let's work together to find strength, meaning, healing, and freedom so you can define your own path. It's time to be free and come alive again. Let’s do it together.