Why did you become a therapist, and what motivates you to continue?
I am Peter, a gestalt psychotherapist who seeks to co-create a safe space for folks with autism, ADHD, learning disabilities, and other unique ways of being in the world. My interest in people who fall outside onerous societal, familial, cultural, and systemic constructs comes from lived experience as a learning disabled man. I understand the shame of never being "good enough" or "perfect" for not being able to meet the demands of an inflexible neurotypical world. So, I decided to serve vulnerable people by attending a Master of Social Work program at New York University, with the hope that I would be healed.
While serving others was meaningful, I felt empty, lonely, sad, overwhelmed, frightened, and uncertain about who I was. Did I make my life meaningful through my actions? With that question in mind, I started receiving holistic psychotherapy and working at various non-profit agencies where I co-created healing relationships with intellectually disabled, autistic, and other unique people. Eventually, such experiences culminated in me attending the Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy, a postgraduate training program for aspiring gestalt psychotherapists.
Gestalt psychotherapy, a psychotherapeutic form of healing based in the here and now, allowed me to address emergent feelings, sensations, and needs. Whomever I believed myself to be was gradually challenged and replaced by my new "self". This transformation repeatedly occurred by being embodied, authentic, intentional, and grounded in awareness.
For me, ongoing transformation, healing, and authentic relating to co-create the scaffolding to experience love, kindness, support, and nurturing relationships remain central to my work as a psychotherapist. Ideally, my healing work will leave a lasting imprint on the world and universe, moving human beings from separateness to oneness. I welcome clients to join me in this journey of experiential growth, excitement, wonder, and reparenting. I send love and compassion to you all. Go in peace.
As an AuDHD (i.e. someone who is autistic and also happens to have ADHD), I am honored to work with neurodivergent people who have difficulty developing nourishing relationships, honoring themselves, and finding acceptance. I see my clients learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings and sensations, noticing their bodies, unmet needs, and humanity. From this, there is a shift from rejection to acceptance and holding. The body is no longer something to be avoided, but a home for healing, growth, and nourishment.