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For people that are hesitant to try therapy, what do you wish you could tell them?

Michael McCullyM

Michael McCully

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

For people that are hesitant to try therapy, what do you wish you could tell them?

I guess I would say don't hesitate. Just go for it, do it. It's so tempting to put it off, but that doesn't really yield any results. So instead I find that most folks generally fall into one of four categories when it comes to that hesitation about seeking services. And the fourth one is kind of a secret, so stay tuned for that one. The first one though, is money. Let's face it, the economy is all kinds of crazy right now, society is all kinds of crazy right now. And money is a real concern for folks. That's why, don't let that be a block for you. If you find a therapist that you feel like you click with, like this is the dork for me, then go for it. Find some time to schedule with them and talk to them. Most therapists want to work with folks, they want to help. So they'll have some wiggle room. Either, y'know, OK you can't afford my sessions every week, so let's do every other week. Or, let's cut the session in half so you can pay me half. They'll find a way, and if they don't? Well then that's a pretty good indication that maybe that's not the therapist for you. So money, while it is a concern for all of us, it should never be a barrier to services. The second thing that tends to hold people back is a fear of being judged. They've gone to family, they've gone to friends, and they've tried to unpack whatever it is that is bothering them, the issues that they're facing. And what they get in response is either a story about them, the family member, and what they've done in the past, which can be helpful sometimes, abstract advice, or worst of all, "you shouldn't feel that way". I hate that phrase. "You shouldn't feel that way". No, you should feel that way. Whatever way you're feeling is perfectly valid! Hungry, angry, lonely, tired, it's all perfectly fine, because you're feeling that way. And it can be hard for family and friends to accept that about us sometimes. It can be hard to see your loved one suffer. And they want to sort of push it away. That's why it's important to go to therapy, because you can find someone who can handle those feelings and still be present with you when you're feeling those feelings and not tell you that you shouldn't but rather tell you, you can, and you should allow yourself to feel that way. Because in therapy, at least the good therapists, you should never feel judged. On the contrary, prized for who you are. That's what I strive for and I think that's what any good decent therapist would strive for. The third reason why people hesitate is because they don't know where to go, how do I find a therapist, what do I look for, what do I do? That's why I like this place so much. Because they offer these videos, they offer this chance for folks to get a feel for a potential therapist. And you're ahead of the curve, for a lot of folks, because you're here, you're listening to this. You're trying to find that good match. And if it isn't me, OK cool, go find someone that is. Because you deserve it. That brings me to my fourth one, the secret one, the one that a lot of folks don't really talk about, at least not openly, and that is, deep down, they don't really think they're worth it. They don't think they're worth therapy. Let me tell ya, whatever part of you it is that's telling you that--they're wrong. You are worth it. You are worth it. Everyone is worth having a good life! Everyone deserves to have a good life. Everyone deserves to be content. Everyone deserves to feel peaceful. And you do too. So whether it's with me or it's with someone else, find that therapist with whom you connect, and don't, don't, hesitate.
HAIDELYN CORDEROH

HAIDELYN CORDERO

Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Online Therapy
For people that are hesitant to try therapy, what do you wish you could tell them?
It takes courage to reach out and put all your vulnerabilities out there with someone you do not know but putting yourself first is just the beginning of the journey to a healthier better life.
Haidelyn Cordero is a board certified licensed clinical social worker in Florida and New Jersey. Haidelyn works with young adults, early adulthood, and veterans. She provides care to clients who struggle with anxiety/depression, borderline personality disorder, stress management, chronic illnesses, comorbidity disorder, family conflict, self-worth/self-esteem, boundary setting, and relationship conflict. Haidelyn has extensive experience working with individuals who struggle with mental health and has been board certified licensed clinical social worker for 4 years. Haidelyn is board certified in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). In addition, Haidelyn is certified in Intimate Partner Violence where she can provide interventions to promote a healthier relationship. Haidelyn’ s treatment approach is rooted in evidence based practices that is strength based and patient centered. Haidelyn studied at Barry University where she obtained her Masters in Social Work. She has worked in the social service field with homeless clients who were struggling with comorbities disorders for 5 years, she has worked with immigrants who were struggling with domestic violence, alcohol abuse, and gang related problems for over 2 years, and she has worked and continues to work in the medical field for 5 years as an inpatient social worker and currently as an emergency social worker. Haidelyn’ s main goals for her clients include reducing symptoms of anxiety/depression, assist clients in accomplishing their goals, improve the daily life of her client through DBT therapy, and to promote personal growth and personal strength. Haidelyn believes that in her practice, her clients can overcome any obstacle presented to them with consistency, motivation, and dedication to improve their wellbeing. She believes that clients have to want to improve their lives and with some unique interventions, compassion, and empathic listening they can propelled forward to a better future. Haidelyn has excelled in her career because she is dedicated and passionate about helping her clients tap into their strengths, achieve their goals, and provides them a non-judgmental safe space to explore their thoughts and feelings. Haidelyn is an avid reader, practices working out 3-4 times a week, loves to spend time with her Yorkipoo Keanu, and loves to travel around the world discovering different cultures. Her clients inspire her to continue growing professionally to provide them with the best interventions and to improve their quality of life. Haidelyn accepts Aetna, Cigna, Florida Blue, Humana, and United Healthcare insurance. If you are experiencing any struggles or simply want someone to chat with, please reach out via telephone or email to schedule an appointment.
Sarah ZimmermanS

Sarah Zimmerman

Therapist/LCSW
Online & In-Person
For people that are hesitant to try therapy, what do you wish you could tell them?
Please don’t be afraid or apprehensive of the process. It’s my job to help you feel accepted and comfortable in a judgment-free setting. You are deserving and good enough. We will tailor the treatment to your needs, what you want yo get out of therapy, and your feedback is super helpful. We can control the pace of therapy so that you feel safe and can tolerate the work that you’re doing. The therapeutic relationship is a professional partnership and your input is so important. I want you to feel in control and empowers. Please share your questions and concerns. Take the step and give it a try. 
Are you ready to make some changes? I’m a therapist with 25+ years of experience. I help clients with anxiety and trauma develop new skills and insights to feel calmer, confident and in control. If you are struggling with feeling fearful, nervous, overwhelmed, irritable and physically ill, I can help. Therapy can provide you with the tools to be your authentic self, improve relationships and just feel better.  I’m Certified in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and am a Certified Clinical Anxiety Professional and a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (Level II). I would love to speak with you about any questions you have and what you’d like to accomplish in therapy. I offer a free 15 minute phone consultation to see if we’d work well together. Let’s chat today.